When it comes to the questions you ask yourself, getting rid of those that include ‘should’ can help you to become a happier person.

Anytime you’re faced with a decision or are trying to figure out how to be happier, you ask questions. The bigger the decision and the greater your desire to lead a meaningful life, the more likely you are to ask a question that goes something like this, “Should I x?”

The ‘x’ can be many things. Perhaps you want to know if you should quit your job or take a new one, leave your partner or stay together, have kids, get married, try something new, start a new business, or any number of other possibilities.

When a big decision can significantly impact your happiness, wondering what you should do is natural. However, it’s also a problem.

Why does asking if you “should” get in the way of becoming happier?

When you’re facing a decision, an answer of ‘yes’ or ‘no’ seems like what you want. The problem is that it doesn’t help you in the long run.

‘Should’ implies that one choice will be filled with regret and sorrow while the other will be all sunshine and perfection.

Let me ask you a few questions:

  • How many times in life has any decision ever worked that way for you?
  • How many times has a challenging experience either introduced you to something or someone you absolutely love now or given you the tools to do something you had no idea would bring you so much happiness?
  • How many past decisions can you honestly say didn’t teach or give you something useful even if you might do things differently if you could go back in time?

Get Rid Of ‘Should’ Questions

Instead, take a different approach and consider the following questions.

  • Is this what I want to do? If I’m not ready, what can I do to get ready? What do I hope to gain in this situation? Based on what I want, is this a good fit for me?
  • What’s making me feel afraid of making this decision? Is it a real threat or a limit I put on myself because someone else feels that way?

If you want to be happier, get rid of the paralyzing idea that there’s only one right answer for the choices you make in life.

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